I think it's great that either you, or your model isn't tiny skinny thin. She looks healthy and normal - so much sexier than ribs and jagged bones. Great shot, perfect expression, and brilliant background!
Some people, like myself, are naturally skinny, and thanks to attitudes like yours (which I myself hold - I think my skinniness is absolutely ugly), I hate my appearance and completely lack confidence in it. I don't dare go running (although I love it), I sit around in the house and eat tons of food in an attempt (for a decade now) to become less thin.
Some days I wake up and wonder why on earth I hate my thinness so much. Then I see comments like yours and I remember.
I don't have a problem with naturally skinny people. You seem to have taken what I said entirely as you wanted to see it. Clearly, you've been looking for this argument and latched onto my comment.
I have a problem with the media and film industry forcing the idea of skinniness on people who simply can't achieve it, and shouldn't. Besides, you simply can't blame me for having an opinion. As long as you're healthy, that's fine. But I, like everyone else, am entitled to an opinion.
I didn't tell you you're not entitled to an opinion. You talked about confidence making people sexy. In that same breath you've been destroying a whole lot of people's confidence. Just wanted to highlight this.
"your model isn't tiny skinny thin. She looks healthy and normal"
Calling tiny skinny thin people unhealthy and abnormal, then telling me I'm latching on to an argument? Please.
Well, lets face it. Tiny, skinny, thin is unhealthy, the majority of the time. And, it is abnormal, statistically. So, I'm not wrong. You may very well be healthy, and thin. I don't know you, you could be lying or telling the truth, I really don't care. But, statistically, being really thin is abnormal.
People come in all shapes and sizes. Media often shows only certain types and calls them beautiful, causing people who do not match those limited types to feel there is something wrong with them, when if they're body is healthy, there is nothing wrong with them, and beauty is decided by the individual as what appeals to them personally.
By insulting a body type you feel the media focuses too much on to promote another one, all you are doing is replacing the body type the media to focus on with another body type. If the media feels enough people like images full-figured women to thin women, it will switch, as it has before, and use full-figured women to sell their products. Then, anyone who is not full figured may feel that they are not beautiful, just as now people who are not thin may feel they're not beautiful.
Full-figured is not always healthy. To equine larger breasts, you have plastic surgery. Wider hips, you can try to eat more of certain foods, or get implants for that, too. To thin down to a full-figured body you would have to be careful in your exercise, as full-figured does not show muscle, but only perfect curves. Also to be noted is that the model's skin is without flaws. Likely airbrushed.
Instead of promoting one body type while shaming others, in order to fight media influence, we should simply promote all body types. Only that a person is healthy should matter.
Pretty relevant; an article about beauty ads for the 1900s-60s, including many examples of them: [link]
I also have an extremely skinny body type, And one of the reasons i hate it so much is that I probably get bullied a lot more than overweight people, for reasons like this. I think i look HORRIBLE, disgusting, and its hard to find clothes that fit, and people look at me strange or yell "She's so SKINNY!" as a walk by them, and seeing comments like these (and so many) make me upset aswell. I'm constantly called anorexic or bulimic. People i've been 'friends' with have told people that i was bulimic (which is a lie.) And i really.. REALLY hate it that people automatically assume that when someone is SKINNY, it means they are anorexic or bulimic and conceded and trying to be sexy and should be labled as 'un-natural' or 'not beauitful.' . I've dropped out of three different schools because of it.
In my country, Mauritius, I was pretty average, so luckily I escaped what you've been through, and it's only when I came to the UK for university that people treated me differently, calling me tiny and expecting me to be unable to eat much. The first time somebody said to me, "You're so tiny!" I was confused. I'm 5'7, which isn't that tall but certainly isn't tiny...
We do desperate things to hide our real body size, don't we? You've probably tried wearing lots of layers and loose sleeves and so on to hide your figure. But don't. The people that really care about you, the people that see the person you are instead of the stereotype they have in their head, will not hurt you. You shouldn't hide yourself from them. <3
Man, I'm glad that you shared your story, here. I get tired of seeing people trying to promote some body-type that they like by shaming and ridiculing other types.
The body-types of models preferred by fashion and commercial industries' change over time by what they believe the public finds most beautiful at the moment, but fighting those limited perceptions of what is beautiful by ridiculing certain body types that a person feel the majority likes at the moment isn't helpful. If anything, that just helps to decide the next new "in" body-type.
Instead of making sure that every body-type has its shamers and is hated by someone, more people should spread love and appreciation of all body-types.
If a person's body-type isn't killing them or physically hurting them, then there's nothing wrong with it. If they are hurt by their body-type only by way of people treating them negatively because of it, those people need to get over their shallowness. Anyone should be able to run.
"people trying to promote some body-type that they like by shaming and ridiculing other types." <-- this.
I don't understand it. Sure they prefer a certain body type over others - we all have our tastes, preferences and opinions - but calling a body type that's not your preference "disgusting", "unnatural", "ugly"... I don't understand that. I think people have too much leisure.
She didn't "just" say that. She said: "your model isn't tiny skinny thin. She looks healthy and normal." In other words she expressed the opinion that tiny skinny people are unhealthy and abnormal.
I'm not against people having opinions. I'm just pointing out that it's a hurtful one.
I'm skinny and I've been called disgusting because of my size many times. Do you think that's a normal attitude for people to hold? Because I don't know anymore. I just know that many days I agree with them thanks to being told it often enough.
Every body type is ridiculed by a group of people. That doesn't mean we have to accept it as a good thing.
And I don't think I made this clear. Calling an unhealthy person "abnormal and ugly" doesn't benefit them. Would you call a cystic fibrosis sufferer "abnormal and ugly"? I wouldn't, and I don't see why we believe that publicly shaming somebody who is ill and under great social pressures already will improve their situation.
I have a few plump friends whose ribs show. And conversely, my ribs don't show. Not a single one. I don't think nature is aware of people's stereotypes.
People around me are divided between those who envy me and wish they could swap with me (really? you want to always have to eat like an army to not lose weight?) or those who think I must be starving myself. While I understand that people are concerned that somebody may be anorexic, calling them names and sneering at them and telling them they have to gain weight doesn't really help the matter!